Left Turns & Other Obstacles

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the care and feeding of your crippled person

Do you have a disability etiquette question? A difficult social situation you would like a different take on? Questionable advice is available here.

Say The Word

Euphamisms are insults.

Say The Word
I recently read a study from England that said disabled people are still being marginalized by negative public attitudes – with a quarter (26%) of Brits admitting that they have avoided conversations with disabled people. The reasons they gave were: feelings of nothing in common (48%), fear of causing offense (30%), feeling uncomfortable (20%) and not knowing what to talk about (17%).

Chillis Restaurants

Sticks and stones.

Chillis Restaurants

Fred Casper worked at Chili's restaurant in the Pittsburgh Mills Mall. He didn't like what his co-workers had to say so he demanded they stop, because what they were saying hurt him in his feelings.

They were using words. Specifically retard. His son has Down Syndrome and he informed his co-workers he would not tolerate them excercising their right to free speech. He was let go and offered a position at another location, which he refused due to "feeling uncomfortable"

United Airlines

Safety First. Always.

United Airlines

On May 5, 2015 Donna Beegle, a medical doctor and anti-poverty activist, boarded a United Airlines flight in Houston headed to Portland with her husband and autistic 14 year old daughter.

The flight was diverted to Salt Lake City and the Beegle family was removed from the plane.

My Top 10 List

Things I DEMAND You Know.

My Top 10 List

I've been seeing a lot of these Top 10 things wheelers... amputees... whatever.. want you to know.. and guess what, they are ALL WRONG.

Just kidding - they're not wrong, they just missed a spot. BUT you do not have to panic. I'm here to fix it for you. Because I'm good like that ☺

Get comfy because I'm going to give you a lot of information in a very short time, so please save any questions you may have to the end.

Why don't you have handles on the back of your chair?

Why don't you have handles on the back of your chair?

Everything in the disabled world is about safety. Ridiculously slow lifts, sheltered workshops, disability tax to every level of unwanted consultancies.. this is no different.

It's to keep you safe.

Touching my chair is like grabbing my ass without my permission. It's not welcome and when people do that, no matter how well intentioned, I react poorly. And by poorly I mean..

Lost in Translation

Lost in Translation

Some words and phrases aren't found in the usual tourist guides, so here are a few that you may have heard in cripworld - translated into cripspeak.

If that happened to me I'd kill myself.

Translation: why are you here? In my mind your life is worthless, so much so that I'll say it to your face in the guise of a compliment because I really don't think you're smart enough to get it and if you do, I don't actually care because, well, as I said, I would rather be dead than you. ☺

Don't Confuse Cruelty with Honesty

It's easy to do

Don't Confuse Cruelty with Honesty

It's common to confuse things that look alike.

Cruelty is a sneaky little worm. It's also talented in that it can hide behind it's fraternal twin Honesty. Sometimes Cruelty even borrows Honesty's favorite outfit. Not cool..

I'm referring to when people use a person's disability and their own inability to deal with it as a reason / excuse to end a relationship, whether it be a friendship, a business partnership or the biggest of all, a personal relationship.

The reasons are usually trivial and show the other person as the shallow unsophisticated (and therefore undateable) individuals they are, but they're delivered in earnest which is why I think they think it's ok..