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the care and feeding of your crippled person
Do you have a disability etiquette question? A difficult social situation you would like a different take on? Questionable advice is available here.
Sticks and stones.
Fred Casper worked at Chili's restaurant in the Pittsburgh Mills Mall. He didn't like what his co-workers had to say so he demanded they stop, because what they were saying hurt him in his feelings.
They were using words. Specifically retard. His son has Down Syndrome and he informed his co-workers he would not tolerate them excercising their right to free speech. He was let go and offered a position at another location, which he refused due to "feeling uncomfortable"
Safety First. Always.
On May 5, 2015 Donna Beegle, a medical doctor and anti-poverty activist, boarded a United Airlines flight in Houston headed to Portland with her husband and autistic 14 year old daughter.
The flight was diverted to Salt Lake City and the Beegle family was removed from the plane.
Things I DEMAND You Know.
I've been seeing a lot of these Top 10 things wheelers... amputees... whatever.. want you to know.. and guess what, they are ALL WRONG.
Just kidding - they're not wrong, they just missed a spot. BUT you do not have to panic. I'm here to fix it for you. Because I'm good like that ☺
Get comfy because I'm going to give you a lot of information in a very short time, so please save any questions you may have to the end.
Everything in the disabled world is about safety. Ridiculously slow lifts, sheltered workshops, disability tax to every level of unwanted consultancies.. this is no different.
It's to keep you safe.
Touching my chair is like grabbing my ass without my permission. It's not welcome and when people do that, no matter how well intentioned, I react poorly. And by poorly I mean..
Some words and phrases aren't found in the usual tourist guides, so here are a few that you may have heard in cripworld - translated into cripspeak.
If that happened to me I'd kill myself.
Translation: why are you here? In my mind your life is worthless, so much so that I'll say it to your face in the guise of a compliment because I really don't think you're smart enough to get it and if you do, I don't actually care because, well, as I said, I would rather be dead than you. ☺
The Double Edged Sword of Cripple Inspiration Porn
First a definition:
Cripple inspiration porn is the portrayal of the lives and imagery of ordinary people with disabilities doing ordinary things as an amazing and noteworthy achievement.
Things like graduating from school, riding the bus, being outside..
It's easy to do
It's common to confuse things that look alike.
Cruelty is a sneaky little worm. It's also talented in that it can hide behind it's fraternal twin Honesty. Sometimes Cruelty even borrows Honesty's favorite outfit. Not cool..
I'm referring to when people use a person's disability and their own inability to deal with it as a reason / excuse to end a relationship, whether it be a friendship, a business partnership or the biggest of all, a personal relationship.
The reasons are usually trivial and show the other person as the shallow unsophisticated (and therefore undateable) individuals they are, but they're delivered in earnest which is why I think they think it's ok..